Who should I choose?

You need to trust the person you choose, so think about who will offer you the best emotional support, then decide and talk it through with your partner. Although fathers have almost routinely attended births since the 1970s, it's not right for everyone.

If you plan to enlist the help of anyone other than dad-to-be, consider friends, family or even a doula (a woman who's experienced in childbirth and will support you during labour).

Research suggests that having a female birthing partner who's had kids herself can be a great source of support, because they are not squeamish about seeing you in pain and can reassure you that it's all normal.